As many mother’s know having kids is never easy. It might seem like this amazing idea while your pregnant and you will dream and this beautiful baby that you swear will never know what a McDonald’s tastes like, they will never throw tantrums and every day will be amazing because will have managed to always make yours presentable and have your make up done before leaving the house in a morning.
Yes I was one of those mothers too and my motherhood dreams came tumbling down around me within a matter of days of my first son T being born. I left the hospital hobbling like a lady needing a zimo frame after my emergency c section. Every time I moved too quickly or took too big a step my stomach would hurt and it would feel like my inside might fall out. It’s safe to say I didn’t look presentable and it didn’t help that the only clothes I could fit in and felt comfortable were my old unflattering maternity clothes due to swelling after surgery. Basically I was a mess!
By the time I became a mum a second time round all my previous preconceptions of motherhood were out of the windows and I was a single mother. That was until I met my hubby and we started a family together and got married.
So now 4 kids down the line I believe all of these bits of my life have made me realise how much it takes to be a great mum and that sometimes you just need a pat on the back for managing to make it through the day in one piece.
so here my list of 5 ways to know you cracked motherhood:
- When your able to some how go to the loo, while holding a clingy teething baby that will start screaming if you so much as hint at putting her down and are able to hug a stroppy toddler, who is sulky because of a reason only they know and understand. ← This is a win, because hey at least you were able to go to the loo.
- You manage to open and enjoy a bar of chocolate with out your little angels seeing, hearing or even smelling the hidden treat. ← As parents we all know how good are little ones are at zoning in on chocolate, so if you managed to eat 1 bar without getting caught, well done.
- When you able to make it out of the door in a morning with a smudge of mascara on, your hair brushed and your have matching shoes. ← Win!
- When your able to feed your baby, while talking on the phone to organise a play date for your eldest and help your toddler put their shoes on with your free hand. ← This is unleashing the awesome mummy powers that turn you into SuperMum!
- When one of your offspring grabs you and hugs you close for no reason other then to show you how much they love and missed you. ← This is one of the best and most amazing moments in motherhood. It’s that moment when you realise you are this little persons everything and they love you just as much as you love them.
There are millions of other motherhood wins that we win every day. They don’t even need to be the big things to be a mummy win it can be the simple things like getting to drink a brew while its hot or getting to actually have a relaxing soak in the bath. A mummy win can be anything that makes you feel Proud and Happy to be a mum!
What are your mummy wins that let you know you cracked motherhood?
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This week my word has been Praise.
The reason this is my word this week is because I have been making a serious effort in ignoring any naughty or answering back my kids have been doing and really trying to focus on praising their good behaviour.
This is tactic we employ a lot of the time but when we were nearing the end of the summer holidays. This practise got a little lost in the boredom and constant brickering that was going on between my
unruly hooligan demon lovely children. So finding the good behaviour to focus on became difficult due to the daily arguments, back chat and fighting that was going on in my once happy house.
But most of last week was filled with people helping me find the positives again. With a few people telling me how polite and kind, my mischievous little munchkins can be.
So this week I made a point to pick out every positive and praise my kids because they deserve it.
T has had a great week in school and has had hardly any melt downs recently. Today he even did the washing up after breakfast with no complaints 🙂 I will say it’s mainly because he is working towards me letting him ride his bike to school on his own :-s. He goes 10 next week and mum walking him to school is so “uncool” apparently.
P has been his usual nattering self but has been so sweet and kind. Telling me he loves me and how much of a great mum I am :). He has also been trying to help out with tidying round the house by moving dirty cups from room and cleaning up after him self. His little face beams with pride everytime I tell him what a great job he is doing.
E loves being told she is a good girl and is really starting to finish he toilet training. She has been dry at night for last 2 nights and makes sure she goes to loo before bed. She is so sweet to Baby an is always singing if she cries or playing with her nicely. When out at play group she normally shares without a problem and loves playing with other kids. She was always a shy on even when she was 4 months old she only ever wanted me. Now she is turning 3 I can see the change as she is really coming out of her shell. It’s beautiful to see.
Baby has been a star recently and is learning new things everyday. She babbles constantly saying ” mama mama”, “dada”, “mmmmmm”, “baba” and loads more. She is a real chatter box :). Her newest achievement is that she is finally sitting up :).
This week I have had so much love and praise to give my kids. Whether it’s going great on homework, chores, kindness or learning something new. They have made me proud and happy to be their mum.
word of the week
I am linking up with Emma at outnumbered as part of the #BEDAoutnumbered challenge.
Day 10: What 3 things you have crossed off your bucket list?
I enjoyed this prompt today because I actually do have a bucket list of all the things I want to do or place I want to go before I, well you know.
Visiting New York
I went when I was 15 with my family. I had always wanted to go and was so excited to go. We did all the usual tourist things like Empire State Building, Times Square and we stopped in the hotel that was between the World Trade Centre. It was great I totally loved the carriage ride and ice skating in Central Park plus going to top of Statue of Liberty and shopping the shopping.
I would love to go back again with my family or even just me and my hubby because I would love to watch a board way show and be able to sample the New York night life (specially now I’m over 21!).
It was one of the scariest, happiest and most nerve wrecking day of my whole life. It was amazing and I wouldn’t of done anything different.
I always knew I would get married but it was just a case of me meeting the right man. Eventually he came along and I am now proud to be his wife.
Becoming a Mother
This is probably my greatest ever achievement. That I some how managed to create these amazing little people who I love dearly (must remind myself nearer the end of summer holidays). They make me smile, hold me close and I love the fact that at one point I was the centre of their whole little world. They mean everything to me.
There you go my 3 achievements and the 3 things I crossed off my bucket list.
Can’t wait to read yours and see you tomorrow x
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